I was at a communion 2 weekds ago and was looking how the children were creating games from nothing, laughing out loud. I felt like I wanted to find again this innocence I loose bit by bit after stepping in adult age.
Later on, the family had organised a Karaoke. And I realised how innocent they really were, as they were singing “Bad Romance” from Lady Gaga, knowing all the lyrics by heart but surely not catching the meaning (fortunately). And I was thinking about the images these little girls are growing up with
And many more………………..
As adults we can decide if it’s good or bad for us, make the difference between a song and a singer, but children are so true and pure. For these little girls, being sexy and half naked is what they are growing up with.
And in Ireland, every Irish women (single or married) going out at night is wearing High heels, ultra mini-skirt and plonging neckline, without knowing how to behave in these clothes, wearing them because it’s what they grew up watching on the TV.
I have many friends who dress like this, but at least they assume their choice, they walk confidently and don’t do too much, behave normally without asking for more attention that they already have. They are themselves, not trying to follow the crowd.
I definitely think we should let kids live their childhood fully. There is enough time to be adult, to see shocking images and people.
As every single mum & dad in this country, they all ask “What will we do when the girls will grow up?“, “Will we have the courage to say no to nights out and scary dress-code?”, “Will we be able to protect our children from heavy drinking and bad encounters with boys?”
Here in Ireland, doctors are worried for the next generation of children. They think the heavy drinking & smoking weekly routine are damaging women bodies and that children will suffer diseases and mental illness.
Nobody knows. Everybody is scared. While they try to find a way out of these unanswered questions, chidren continue to watch the last Hip Hop Song on TV, humming some words they don’t get, when in the background women in bikinis are dancing like they perform in a Strip-Tease club. (These places are open to a certain audience for a reason).
Today is Mother’s day in France. And so I think about my mum’s wise words. We disagreed and argued a lot. But she never gave up, she never let us follow the crowd. We knew what we could do and what we couldn’t. She gave us the codes. She fought for us to be who we are. She believed when we doubted. She trusted when we loose faith.
She told us about our grand-mothers lives, about their hard battle for more freedom and more rights, without promoting independence or false equality, always teaching men and women are different and that what makes the world moving.
The limits did not prevent us to make our own mistakes, to take dark roads. But she was always there to heal the wounds, always reminding us that we were to become women, that our body would one day give life, the most beautiful thing she had the chance to experience, that we should preserve ourselves for the one who will be able to go beyond our appearance, who will see more than we could or would share.
She told us each age has to be fully enjoyed, surely because she did not had the chance to live this easy life. There is a time to be a kid, a time to be a young girl, a time to be a woman. Mix them all together, you don’t get anything, except misery and pain. And children should be kept away, every time it’s possible, from adulthood damages and dangers.
Our times of sorrow were hers. Our times of joy were hers too.
She protected our childhood, and today when our arguments drive us apart, I can remember these sweet memories, I can remember I made colorful dreams for years and years, I can remember she is there with me from the beginning of time, that her words guide me in my life as a women, as a wife. As a mum one day………….
And I can only say:
THANK YOU MUM
For all women, all mothers around the world
For the ones not yet blessed with a child
And for the ones who will never have one (May God help you to find happiness in a fulfilled marriage or single life in communion with others)
May God bless you for giving so much love
May God reward you for your efforts and sacrifices
that never end.