Taking Sides

Some days, we must take sides.

We have to fight for






We have to fight against







And then some days

We face small, tiny life challenges

People disagreeing

People being rude

People chatting behind other’s back


Personal issues

Should we take someone’s side?

Or stay neutral?

Should we say “yes” to one and “no” to the other?

Should we add to the gossip?

Or should we remain silent?


It’s THEIR issues.

As long as these issues don’t affect our humanity or the humanity of the people involved…


What should we do?

Is there anything to do?

Won’t it be easier to realize that all this mess is not worth it?

Won’t it be easier to try our best to see the strengths of that person, behind all her/his weaknesses?


Why are we so good at making our lives miserable, as if there was not enough pain and suffering in this world?

I wonder.

What shall we do, when we face people not liking each other?

What shall we do, when we don’t own the problem?

Where shall we stand, when we don’t wish to be involved, when nobody is right or wrong?

Where shall we stand, when it’s all about the incompatibility of two characters?

I wonder.





18 thoughts on “Taking Sides

  1. Sui Generis October 2, 2014 / 5:46 pm

    That’s one big dilemma especially if both the arguing parties are close to us. I think that life throws such problems so that we can see the true nature of people. A real relationship does not break with just an argument. But if people are dragging on then even the tiniest of disagreement may become an excuse to break things off. Do what you feel is the best for you. We can’t always worry over people’s expectations and reactions. And no matter how hard we try, people will be disappointed. But we aren’t living to fulfill other’s expectations now, are we?
    Take care Marie!


    • marieandpop October 7, 2014 / 5:00 pm

      You are right Sui, we can’t always worry over what people think or what people would like us to do. We can only try our best and wait.
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts my dear.


  2. balroop2013 October 2, 2014 / 6:11 pm

    Hi Marie,

    I like your profound analysis of people and issues…we have to take sides if we want respect and justice, we have to notice their attitude to understand life better, we have to learn from our experiences to become a better person. We have to stand tall to face life boldly…to show those people – nobody should be underestimated, nobody should be taken for granted. Self esteem is as important for us as for them.

    Lovely thoughts, beautifully articulated.


    • marieandpop October 7, 2014 / 5:03 pm

      Thank you so much Balroop for reading me and helping me on this issue I am facing.
      Self esteem is important for every one, you are very right. I never thought about this from this angle and it’s interesting.

      Stay well and blessed.


  3. My Inner Chick October 2, 2014 / 6:14 pm

    —-Sweet, Marie,
    so much to think of here.
    We cannot do it all, but we can do something.
    I think of Annie Lamott’s book, Bird by Bird.
    She told her father “I cannot do all of this. It’s TOO much.”
    And he said, “Bird by Bird, honey, Bird by Bird.”
    I think of this often when I get overwhelmed.
    Love and Hugs from Minnesota. xxoo


    • marieandpop October 7, 2014 / 5:23 pm

      I like it Kim.
      “Bird by Bird” sounds very wise.
      Much love sent your way.
      (I love to imagine love flying accross continents and oceans to deliver its message).


  4. Zarina October 2, 2014 / 8:05 pm


    You ask some really important questions, and I think many of us can relate to this “crisis”. I guess we need to know when is the right time to act and when we should remain silent and this is a difficult balance to find, nevertheless, I have come to believe through my experiences that we cannot just sit by and watch others self destruct, we need to take some action, obviously within reason, sometimes all people need is another perspective to help the see things differently. You have a lot of goodness to share and I think others would benefit so much from that.

    Wishing you all the best always;-)


    • marieandpop October 7, 2014 / 5:25 pm

      Dear Zarina, thank you very much for reading and leaving those inspiring words. It’s not that easy to find the right balance, but I think you’re right, we should always try, take action, do something.
      I’ll follow your good advice. Stay well and blessed my friend.


  5. Jodi Aman October 2, 2014 / 8:53 pm

    My thoughts exactly! Beautifully said


    • marieandpop October 7, 2014 / 5:26 pm

      It’s why it’s so important to share our thoughts. We are learning so much from each other Jodi.


    • marieandpop October 7, 2014 / 5:27 pm

      Glad you left with ideas or something to think about.Take care Sarah.


  6. Foz October 3, 2014 / 10:11 pm

    I can so relate to this post at this moment…..It is not easy to know what to do at times….


    • marieandpop October 7, 2014 / 5:04 pm

      It’s tricky Foz. Maybe we whould only try our best and ask God or friends for guidance.


  7. Salma October 6, 2014 / 3:57 pm

    I like to think that we do choose the right path if we know what it is. Many times we don’t…we are human.
    Great post Marie. Have a great week!


    • marieandpop October 7, 2014 / 5:05 pm

      I would think the same Salma. Thought yes often we are a bit overwhelmed by what we have to face. We are humans, I tend to forget this line!
      Thanks sweet Salma and have a lovely day.


  8. nancyraphaelle October 7, 2014 / 3:44 am

    Coucou chère Marie

    Merci pour ton analyse qui est juste et censée.
    J’aime ce que tu écris.

    GROS BISOUS D’ASIE pour vous deux
    Bonne journée !!! Ƹ̴Ӂ̴Ʒ❀


    • marieandpop October 7, 2014 / 5:06 pm

      Merci beaucoup Nancy! C’est toujours un plaisir de te voir ici.
      Grosses bises de Paris, sous le soleil.


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