Acceptance & Freedom @WMB

Accepting children the way they are. It sounds normal. It’s what love is all about: accepting others. We are all different and we recognize that our differences are a real chance.

But when it comes to our kids, we tend to have dreams for them; we tend to wish them to be more extrovert than we were, more independent, to be less frightened, less worried than us. We are trying our best to tell them all about confidence and how important it is to share, care, how nice it is to have friends or not to be afraid of others, strangers.

When they fit our expectations, it feels so good. We are the first ones to congratulate ourselves on how good we are at educating them. When they don’t, we start asking ourselves, “what’s wrong?” We start feeling that we are not good enough and put a lot of pressure on us and on them. We want them to fit in, to be like others. It’s so easy.

We do forget easily that kids are independent beings. Just like us…More to read on WMB

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10 thoughts on “Acceptance & Freedom @WMB

  1. Trini Lind September 6, 2016 / 3:45 pm

    Beautifully written and expressed! I so agree! ❤

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    • Marie O' September 16, 2016 / 10:58 am

      Thanks Trini. Parenting is a great joy and challenge too at times. Support is precious.

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    • Marie O' September 16, 2016 / 10:59 am

      Not that easy Lisa. Maybe we tend to compare our kids (and ourselves) way too much! Thanks a lot.

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    • Marie O' September 16, 2016 / 11:00 am

      Thank you Kim. Your Love and Friendship are precious. xoxo

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  2. balroop2013 September 12, 2016 / 8:57 pm

    Hi Marie,

    It is natural for us to push our children, to expect the best from them and sometimes we tend to overdo it, which in the modern times is called ‘being judgmental’…but our motive is just putting in our best efforts to let our children grow into fine, independent and responsible individuals. Gone are the days when we could force children to do what we wanted as peer pressure and awareness play an important role in moulding them.

    While it is good to ‘let them be’ we must insist on certain values we believe in and we want them to imbibe. Children do listen if we tell them lovingly. 🙂 I know you are one of the best mothers. My best wishes.
    Many Thanks for choosing my poem as one of your favorite posts.

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  3. Amira September 13, 2016 / 7:18 pm

    Oh Marie, this came in the right time.. maybe a wake up call for me!! maybe. I just want their best interest.. nut then again maybe it is best from only my point of view. I was talking to my husband two days ago telling him I am really tired.. really very tired I am emotionally drained!! I think I should let go.. even a little.

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    • Marie O' September 16, 2016 / 11:03 am

      It’s never easy Amira to know what to do and how to do it. We do our best as parents my friend. Letting go can benefit us a lot. Cause at the end of the day what counts is the love we give to our kids.
      We may know from our point of view what their best interests are but as they grow up we might need to let them chose their way, supporting them all along the process.
      It’s hard being a mum sometime.
      PS – you should visit World Mums Network sometimes, it’s full of great advice and support from mums all around the world.
      Thinking of you Amira and keeping you in my prayers.

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