Domestic Abuse: from Fear to Confidence @WMB

When you leave an abusive relationship, you are driven by fear. At some point you know that if you stay, you’ll die, one way or another. And if you have kids, that they are at great risk too. You may not be able to say that it’s the right choice, because your thoughts are not clear, your mind is dealing with many contradictions; guilt and shame are your best friends for years.

You’ll find on your way back to life, many voices that will make you doubt your decisions to get out of a domestic abuse situation. It will be friends and professionnals. And it will be tough to listen to those people, who seem to know better than you what you went though and what you ought to do to start again. You will listen at first and you will feel less and less powerful, more and more under stress, pressure. All your energy seems gone to a land where you can’t catch it again.

Obviously, the person committing abbuse will do everything to win your back; your kids will be used for bartering —so easy! Many people think that it’s just about leaving domestic abuse, when in fact it’s so much more. It’s about finding yourself again, in a battle that looks like it will never ever end. And, also, it’s about keeping your kids safe and well.

Kids are the priority
Often people tell you—now that you’re out and ready to start a new life away from your abuser—that you have to take care of yourself. On paper, this looks great for sure, but in reality, if you have kids, you will want to protect them first. How can you think about yourself, when for years you have been nothing, and when you have been told you were good for nothing. First things first. Getting out of domestic abuse will cost you: 1. insomnia, 2. a great deal of money to find the best lawyer, 3. countless thoughts about whether you should give him/her another chance…again.

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10 thoughts on “Domestic Abuse: from Fear to Confidence @WMB

  1. GraceoftheSun May 2, 2022 / 5:30 pm

    Wonderful read, Marie. So many wise truths. Thanks for sharing.”At the end of the story, you know you are part of it too. And you start taking care of yourself! “💕💕💕

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  2. lisa thomson-author May 2, 2022 / 5:32 pm

    A very helpful article for other women dealing in the same situation right now. It is brave and courageous for you to open up about your own experience. Very powerful writing, Marie. Hugs and love to you.

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    • Latmospherique May 9, 2022 / 4:39 pm

      Thank you Lisa!
      You know like me that our stories ought to be shared – they can help.
      At the time I left I was reading Kim’s blog and it made a difference in my life
      Sending love and gratitude to you

      Like

  3. Rita May 2, 2022 / 8:04 pm

    Powerful truth! Sometimes we have to learn these lessons as very young people and leave home to save ourselves. It’s a tough road from fear to confidence – but I discovered it’s the only road to beautiful ❤️❤️

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      • Rita May 9, 2022 / 4:37 pm

        Thank YOU for using your strong voice!

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  4. Isa May 3, 2022 / 10:42 am

    Thanks for sharing your story, Marie. I’m glad you got out of this awful situation and I’m sure your powerful testimony will help other people do the same. Again, thank you ❤

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    • Latmospherique May 9, 2022 / 4:35 pm

      Thank you for reading it Isa.
      We need to share our personal stories one way it another.
      It can change lives. ❤

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