Being the mum of a preteen

When kids are small we wish for them to grow, so we could breath a bit between chores, games and responsabilities. And then one day they are old enough to tell you that they don’t want any more cuddles, or nicknames in front of their friends. Old enough to walk alone to school and to spend days without asking for you.

You realize that your child is not a small kid anymore, even if he is only 9 years old. At his age – do you remember? – maybe you were the same. Maybe you wanted to be independant and break free, maybe you were only thinking about being with your friends…

Anyway, when you look at photos, something is telling you that many things will never be the same again. It feels good and yet a bit of nostalgia is taking over and you try as much as you can to deal with it, at your own pace.

You know for sure that your child is not your child, Khalil Gibran penned it so well, you can relate to it when you feel lost. He’s a child of the world and so your mission is to let him find his place and fly with strong wings as far as he’d like to go. When you see many struggling to have kids, many in pain with loss and grief, with empty nest and so much love to share, you start looking at what you hold in your hands, a wish, a life and you feel grateful to be able to be the first witness of growth – even if it’s tough at times! !!

How did you handle preteen years? Did you find it easy to let go?

14 thoughts on “Being the mum of a preteen

  1. GraceoftheSun May 10, 2022 / 4:52 pm

    Preteen years are so curious, some become more reserved while others become super outgoing. These years can be quite tricky since they are getting to know themselves and their place in the world. All I could do was be aware of their life, be around to guide when necessary , give them their space and love them through it. I still have a pre teen but I will tell you that the young adult years are a blast.💕💕💕

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    • Latmospherique May 18, 2022 / 4:52 pm

      Thank you for sharing parts of your story Grace! And for the support of your words. I feel less alone in this fast-changing place! 💕

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      • GraceoftheSun May 18, 2022 / 6:00 pm

        Happy to hear that, Marie. My pleasure.💕

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  2. balroop2013 May 10, 2022 / 5:25 pm

    It is never easy to let go Marie but that is the way of the world and we have to learn to live with such changes. Love, respect and support that you would give him during these years would be remembered all his life. 😊

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  3. carrie4myself May 10, 2022 / 11:23 pm

    Preteens are not easy. Each step in a child age is different, tough and full of “surprises.
    2 main things I found/think:
    T- hey don’t behave as we used to at the same age. What we were doing at 10 years old they do it at 8 for example.
    – And another thing, for some of them the Covid hurt them so much in their feelings, dreams that it will take time, love and patience to built all that again

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    • Latmospherique May 18, 2022 / 4:59 pm

      Hello Carrie, yes they are a couple of years ahead of us and all psychologistes say it as well.
      And I agree the Covid hi them hard. So love and patience are keys
      Thank you

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  4. Isa May 11, 2022 / 10:01 am

    It’s never easy to let go, to find the right balance between being there for them and letting them experience life on their own terms. I feel like I’m constantly readjusting my beliefs and my reactions. In short, I think we are evolving with them, from one stage of motherhood to the next. I didn’t expect to miss their past selves so much though, the spontaneous kids they used to be before the awkwardness of the teenage years set in. But I guess it means I’m probably gonna miss some aspects of those teenage years once they’re all grown up. Talk about letting go, indeed 🙂

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    • Latmospherique May 18, 2022 / 5:00 pm

      I guess so Isa.
      Anyway each age has its own ups and downs and you’re right when you are saying that we do need to find our balance again and again as they are growing up and we are changing!
      Thanks a lot 💕

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  5. Priti May 16, 2022 / 2:48 pm

    Beautiful article! Actually a mum we always need to be careful to our children may be it preteen ,at this time we often see some changes in them and we need to be aware about it! Well written thanks 😊👍

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