Books, friends, fundraising and creation

 

In September last year I shared with you inspiring projects by fabulous ladies! Don’t get me wrong, some men are doing great things too. But I like to honor the ladies here – no offense!

So, let’s see what’s going on around:

  • Lisa released her New Book – A Divorce Companion (a must read for all people facing divorce, all people recovering from it and even all people touched a way or another by this life-changing experience)
  • Marie (Deep Stones)  is creating wonderful bracelets with semi-precious stones – all made with generosity and kindness. I am in Love with her work.
  • Trish is about to set off on a new journey – a walk of 2,190 mile (Appalachian Trail) to fundraise for Kay’s Kisses “Sharing love, books, and gifts with children recovering from domestic violence”. Go check her website and support her along the way – this is just AWESOME!
  • Another book by Balroop Singh (Allow Yourself to be a better person) – I can tell you only one thing – you’ll love it. Why? Cause she is writing from the heart and nothing can ever be better than this voice inside sharing what counts.
  • My friend in Corsica is raising money for KMG Ethiopia – a charity organization working for Women’s Rights.

Any inspiring project to share with us? I am all for any you have in mind…

Being true to ourselves…

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I wanted to be her. Confident. In love. With herself. With the world.

I wanted to be like her. Walking proudly in high heels and feeling like I own the world.

I wanted to be her. So sure of herself. So chatty. So beautiful.

I wanted to be like her. Wearing red lip-gloss and sunglasses. Short skirts and bikinis.

I wanted to be her. So much.

I thought she was happy, she had the perfect life, the perfect family.

And then…

She vanished into the night.

And all truth about her came back in a flash of dark light.

She was not loved, she was consumed by passion.

She was not happy, she was in much pain.

She was fake.

She was somebody she was not, so she could face life.

She was smiling at the world. Inside, she was crying.

We never know what people are going through, what life they have, what happens behind closed doors: the best or the worst.

Praying for the best. Always. And remembering that we should never envy others but look at ourselves with love, enjoy whatever is good in our life and change the things that don’t seem right (for us). 

Help and Hope (while you are healing): Chris Carter Interview!

Today I have a special guest and I am so thrilled about it.

Around the summer, Chris offered me the opportunity to read her first book and I can tell you that this was truly a beautiful gift. As soon as I started it, I felt closer to her, I felt like we were two friends, chatting around a good coffee, her telling me that all will be well and that I will make it through, whatever that “it” may be. And maybe for the first time, I believed all will be ok.

I am so happy she said “yes” to this short interview and I can’t wait to discover, with you, all about the first idea, the book, and what there’s between. Let’s start, ok!

  1. Could you please introduce yourself in a couple of words (for my readers)?

Sure thing! I’m Chris Carter and I have been writing over at TheMomCafe for about six years, with hopes to encourage my readers through topics of motherhood, faith, and living intentionally every day. I have two kids ages 10 and 13, and I am blessed to stay at home to care for them and do ALL the things I love. Much of my time is spent writing and reaching others through publishing my words on various online sites, moderating a large Christian bloggers FB group with three other beautiful women, and leading a women’s ministry and teen ministry out of my home. I can’t think of anywhere else I’d rather be and anything else I’d rather be doing.

  1. When the idea of writing a self-help book about healing (and hope) did pop up in your head? What was your first aim? How long did it take for you to write it? And how did you organize yourself around this project? Any hard time you’d like to share with us all along the writing process? And a happy moment, that told you were on the right road?

It’s to me, quite an amazing story how my book came to be. I had felt a longing to write a book for some time, and didn’t have a clear direction on what to write about because my feeling was that the things I write about: Motherhood, faith, inspiration- are all topics that have countless books saturating the market. I didn’t feel I had anything more important to add to such a vast variety of really great literature on those subjects. I kept praying for clarity and guidance and for God to give me any ideas if I were to write a book. I knew it needed to be something unique and purposeful- but I really felt discouraged about what that could possibly be.

Then I had a pretty rough surgery, and during my recovery, I would try to write on the topics I usually focus on, but one evening I wrote a post “Ten Tips For A Woman In A Leg Cast” filled with the real deal on how hard it is to experience this type of recovery. I remember vividly, feeling like it was such a waste of time, because I never had written anything like that before- and I surely thought no one would want to read it.

As the months went by, that one post kept getting more and more traffic on my blog.  I started to get messages and comments from people that were going through similar situations thanking me for writing it. During this time, I was still praying for God to give me an idea for a book, and this post kept gaining more traffic. I thought this was very interesting.  So several months later, I had another surgery to take some screws out of my toe joint, and I was back up on the couch. I decided to write another post similar to that one, to see if it too, would be received the same way. “Twenty Truths About Life After Foot and Ankle Surgery” was gaining ground with the other post.

Then it hit me. I could write a book to help not only these women, but any woman who has to face recovery! I realized I had some experience in this area and could hopefully offer some insight and encouragement on this topic. I then searched for any books like this, and there was NOT ONE.

Huh.

Answer to prayer?

You bet!

I knew I needed to write it.

The first draft wasn’t hard to write at all.  It came straight from my heart and my experience- but months leading up to it were spent brewing up ideas and chapter structure and how I wanted the progression of the book to go. The editing process was brutal. I kept seeing things I wanted to change, improve, clarify, and sometimes completely revise. After rounds and rounds of edits, and then a few more rounds from my editor…

I was finally at peace with it. I didn’t want it to be a complicated read, because I know that people in this painful place need and it’s not a lot of content to manage. I wanted to touch on the challenges people can face and offer them new ways to approach their healing with purposeful ideas and insights that were helpful.

I haven’t read it again since. I think I’m too afraid I’ll catch something else I want to change!

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  1. You wrote it for every woman dealing with injury, illness or surgery – did you realized that your words would touch other hearts, people like me, dealing with the “normal” and daily ups and downs of life?

I honestly didn’t expect that my book would speak to women who weren’t in some sort of recovery, and oh what a wonderful surprise it has been to see people receiving it in this light!  It makes sense, because we all experience challenges in how we face difficult situations and life offers them regularly, yes? I think much of my book can easily translate into a general encouragement to view life with intention, purpose, and hope. I’m thrilled it inspires ALL women to shift their perspective in a positive way.

  1. Since you released it, how do you feel? How people did welcome it?

I have a sense of peace about this book and the messages within  it, which is a huge blessing to me. I have been so happy with the feedback so far, from friends who have read it and I truly believe it can help many people who are challenged with these circumstances. I am still working on getting it into the right places for marketing, so there is more awareness of this book. That is the challenge for me at this time. I expect this to be a slow and steady process, and I trust that God has plans for my book to reach many more in time.

  1. Will you stop there or do you have any plan to write another book sooner or later?

Well… I’ve been working on a project with my writing friend, Galit Breen, that has nothing to do with health and wellness, but it’s important just the same. She had asked me to work with her on developing an e-course or possible book to help parents guide their kids in the online world using Christian principles. I’m really excited for it to come out sometime in January!

  1. One last word for all women reading us today…

I truly believe that every woman will experience some type of injury, surgery, or illness in their life- if not many! It is my hope that this book can be on the nightstand of each and every one of them, because I know how important it is to have encouragement during such difficult times. I really see this book as a gift, pairing nicely with a good home cooked meal. I think there is nothing better than that for those we love who are hurting and healing.

Chris thanks for being such a true, kind, beautiful and inspiring person. You are making a REAL difference in this world. And I am delighted to walk with you on the road!

Chris Blog – The Mom Café

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I need “help” and that’s ok @WMB

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As far back as I can remember I always had a clear idea of what a strong woman is and how she should behave. A strong woman would do whatever she could to have all situations under control, would not need help and would not ask for it either, would manage on her own and would succeed alone.

This was before. Before what?

Before I had no other choice than say “I need help”. I need help to go through the day. I need help to wake up, stand up and live. I need help to overcome my fears, doubts. I need help to love my child. I need help to face past memories. I need help to rebuild my life. I need help to forgive. I need help to love myself.

And my idea of what a strong woman is changed.

We often think that asking for help is a proof of our inability to face life and its challenges.

If you ask mums, friends, people around you, I bet that the answer you’ll hear most of the time will be something like this “I don’t want to ask for help. I’m fine. I’ll deal with it like a big girl”.

Why can’t “being a big girl” and “asking for help” go together? Why do we, women, mums, think that if we ask for help, people will consider us failures?

Read HERE

 

Angel Vibes

She comes from above. I can see her. She has a name. She is smiling, telling me I am safe. She didn’t lose any battle. She survived them all.

I can feel her, close to me. She is caressing my face, drained by tears. She’s talking to me, with gentle words “don’t worry, I am there, you’re not alone.”

She is calling me by my name. She is showing me the way – out of this place of despair. She is telling me not to go home tonight, to call a friend, to let go.

She is so far away and so alive in this moment.  She is like a friend by my side, supporting my pain, shooting inside my veins the energy I need to face fear without being afraid. As I stay under the rain, soaked from head to toe, feeling like a shadow, I feel the warmth of her smile, the raw kindness of her soul enveloping me, southing my shaking body.

She is an angel. She is a like the rising sun. She is empowering me.

I left.

Him. And all the messy memories.

I saved my life.

She prepared the way and put loving marks on the road so I won’t feel lost.

She left and came back.

Every time I cried in the starless nights. Every time I felt I could not make another step. Every minute I would rather die than face the emptiness, the heaviness of my belly, full of life.

She never let go of my hand.

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I told you she is an angel. The one with her name on her grave. She did not die. She is rising above the clouds, above the storm, above the hurricane that shatter so many lives.

She showed me her beautiful heart, her unique value. She transformed pain into thousands of yellow lights. She painted my sky in blue. She told me “I love you”. And I believed her.

She took me out of darkness, out of the fucking nightmare I was living in. One night, I called and she cut the chains, she opened the doors so I could escape my prison. She set me free.

When I pray, I spell out loud her name. Beautiful K.A.Y

I am sending you love across oceans and seas, across continents till the endless heaven where you are saving lives every single day.

And Kim, Thank You for Your Love & Light

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Incredible Women!

They have a way to say things, to encourage each other.

They use “love” like others say “hello”.

They hug you when they met you for the first time.

They are willing to share every bits and pieces of their story, ups and downs of life, without worrying about what you’ll think about them.

You feel safe and at home around them.

They know what you keep inside and give you some space to let it go.

They love you without a doubt, praying that you’ll be ok, that your loved ones will be fine. Without knowing your name or any of your scars.

They believe and have faith.

They welcome you with a smile and the assurance that whatever happens they’ll be there. For you.

They say “you are fabulous”, “you kick ass”, “you rock or “you’re an angel”.

They are themselves no matter what.

They attend to your kids and take care of them, like their own. They pack their bags for a pajama party, when they feel you can’t take it anymore.

They see behind your beautiful smile. They see your tears. They know they won’t last.

They don’t wait till you fall down to be there and share help.

They are Incredible Women!9c964c61f63d34e5bb50415611696743

Books, friends, happiness and meditation

Today is a beautiful day!

This is the way I start every new day.

Today is a magical, joyful, bright and lovely day!

Today I’d like to share with you what makes me grateful and introduce you to funky, kind-hearted and creative friends.

Here we go on the fabulous news and ideas you should not miss:

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Kim is hosting her second annual writing contest. Whether you’d like to write or just read, you’d better check the theme and the beautiful gifts the winner will get!

Chris book is about to go on sale. Don’t miss the launch next week. I can assure you that it’ll be a MUST READ.

World Mums Blog became World Mums Network. And started a new program called GLOW (just the sound of it…) to introduce women from all over the world to Heartfulness meditation.

You fancy jewelries or you are looking for a sweet gift for a friend, come and check my friend Karine new passion. All is hand-made and made with love.

Finally, I’ll let you with my last discovery: The Happiness Planner. Start a new life with a positive attitude and don’t fear happiness – You Deserve It!

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Acceptance & Freedom @WMB

Accepting children the way they are. It sounds normal. It’s what love is all about: accepting others. We are all different and we recognize that our differences are a real chance.

But when it comes to our kids, we tend to have dreams for them; we tend to wish them to be more extrovert than we were, more independent, to be less frightened, less worried than us. We are trying our best to tell them all about confidence and how important it is to share, care, how nice it is to have friends or not to be afraid of others, strangers.

When they fit our expectations, it feels so good. We are the first ones to congratulate ourselves on how good we are at educating them. When they don’t, we start asking ourselves, “what’s wrong?” We start feeling that we are not good enough and put a lot of pressure on us and on them. We want them to fit in, to be like others. It’s so easy.

We do forget easily that kids are independent beings. Just like us…More to read on WMB

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Cooking with Amira

You know or you may remember that it took me some time to go back to the kitchen, without feeling concerned about how I would perform, whether I would make a good or not-so-good dish.

I can say that now I am perfectly happy when I take all my ingredients out to start a new recipe. I even asked Mister Pop to join. And his answer is often positive!

We put on our aprons and off we go…

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To be true, I always have a hard time following a recipe. I try and then I lose track. And end doing something quite strange!

The first recipe I followed from beginning to end, I found it on Amira’s blog. It was the Harsha Bread one. And it was good. I can clearly see me dancing in my living room with my delicious recipe on a plate. Note that at this time, even though I enjoyed cooking again, I would not try it when others were around. It was a “me” time and a cooking for me alone phase. I needed time, before having enough confidence to cook for others and let the kitchen door open when others were around.

Since this first recipe I kept on trying more and more. What I like about Amira’s cooking, it’s that it’s simple and very well explained. She is even showing how to complete the recipe through a well done video. You can’t go wrong with this!

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I have to add that with every recipe, she is sharing some stories about it. Her North African origins are a great chance for us. When cooking, I can tell Mister Pop where this or that recipe comes from, it’s a good way to get close to his other culture and to develop his taste at the same time. It’s a real travel tour!

Our favorites recipes (approved by little one, mum and grandparents):

Simit Bread

Sweet Couscous 

Fatayer with cheese and mint filling 

Middle Eastern Spiced tea 

And you, tell me, do you love cooking? Whose blog do you follow? What kind of “food” do you like the most? An easy recipe to share with us?